How Do You Find A Gift That Says It All?

I'm not sure whether you've ever consideredand still have the score sheets. One of us would
converting your thoughts and feelings into aalways write little sayings on the sheet about the
meaningful anniversary gift but poetry can be awinner and loser. The winner always wore the
great idea for any anniversary and is a trulyinvisible crown. Sometimes when Tommy or I
romantic way of expressing your innermostwould be the current champion of both games
thoughts and feelings.(Here's a good example ofwe would fake "complain" that our head hurt
what can be achieved. Debbie was going to bebecause we were wearing two crowns as a
celebrating her first anniversary and wantedjoke.For the first month we were dating, if our
something special for her husband, Tommy.date fell on a Saturday he would always schedule
Debbie has kindly given her permission for herthe date for 6:30 or 6:45pm. One Saturday I was
poem and story to be published)Wiggy andpassing a Catholic church in our town about
WigsterWhat is your name : Debbie ItalianoWho6:00pm and noticed his truck. I realized that he
do you want the poem written for: My Husbandwas going to church, but did not want to tell me
TommyWhy do you want the poem written: Ourthat. I am Catholic too and had not been to
First Wedding AnniversaryWhat are the keychurch in many years because I had no one to go
messages you would like to send: We had knownwith or any other excuse I could come up with. I
each other for about 13 years before we startedtold him I saw him there and told him I would love
dating, but he did not know that mutual friends ofto go with him. Now we add mass every
ours had tried to fix me up with him throughoutSaturday night at 5:30 p.m. to whatever our
that time. He came to my job one day (July 30th)schedule may be. I've heard it said that "people
because he was friends with my boss and hewho pray together, stay together."Do you have
struck up a conversation with me. That day Iany other comments or thoughts: We have an
happened to be very tan, I was in the bestextremely loving and kind relationship. We do not
physical shape of my life and I was wearing afight , yell or call each names. We do everything
white half shirt so my rippled stomach wastogether as a team. We are each other's best
showing. He saw that and said "I gotta have that".friend. We are supportive of each other at all
He asked me what I did to stay in shape and Itimes. We cherish life and each other. I am just
told him bike riding, running, roller blading etc. Soabout 40 and he is 44. It took us many years to
he asked if we could get together sometime andfind each other. My husband decided that he was
go together. It turns out I lived right around thecontent on being single the rest of his life, until he
corner from him (a 3-minute walk away!). Hemet me. The relationship I have with Tommy is
called me that day at the office after he left andthe best relationship with anyone, male or female,
asked me to go with him down the shore to pickthat I have ever had.What style of poem would
up a new truck he had bought.I was still on theyou prefer (happy, sad, romantic etc.): happy and
fence about a guy I had been dating for a fewromanticPlease choose which package you would
weeks, so I declined and said I was busy andprefer: UniqueDo you have any last comments or
maybe some other time. Over the next month, Ithoughts: My husband is truly my sole mate and
changed the route I took to work so that I couldthe love of my life. I adore him. He is not like any
drive by his house, in hopes of seeing him outsideother human being I've met my entire life. He
to wave hello. One month to the day (Augustcompletes me. Everyone that he knows or meets
30th) I had already broken it off with the otherthinks he is such a wonderful person with a great
guy and went into my boss's email address bookbig heart, and now it beats for me!Wiggy and
and got Tommy's address and I e-mailed him toWigsterWe had known each other for 13 years,
say hello and asked to take him up on that bikethat was even before we'd started to date, but
ride. He was thrilled. We went out on our firstdespite the best efforts of our mutual friends,
date 2 days later, September 1, 2001. We wentthey hadn't accounted for those winds of fate.We
to dinner at The Offshore in Point Pleasant andhad known each other for 13 years, that was
then took a romantic stroll, hand-in-hand, fromeven before we'd started to date, but despite the
one end of the boardwalk to the other. After 2best efforts of our mutual friends, they hadn't
weeks of dating, we were in NYC one night and Iaccounted for those winds of fate.You came to
asked him when was all the sweetness going tomy job one hot July 30th, and you struck up a
end and he said, "never, why does it have to."conversation with me, that day I happened to be
Both of us knew it this was it, after only twovery tanned, you thought my ripped stomach
weeks. All of our friends and family knew too andwas a place to be.You asked what I did to stay in
wondered why we were waiting so long to getshape, and asked if sometime we could go
married or moved in together. I moved in 8together, I was only 3 minutes away from "more
months later (May 1, 2002) and we were engagedthan life itself, each and every day of my life,
the day after my birthday on July 28th, 2002. Weforever and ever".Exactly one month from that
were happily married August 2, 2003. And thefirst meeting day, I looked you up in an e-mail
sweetness is still there, it will never end. We wentaddress book, I must admit I'd been driving by
on our honeymoon to one of the most romanticyour house, just in the hope I'd get a wave or a
places in the world, Italy.Do you have any funny,look.Because I'd already turned down one
sad, happy, embarrassing or otherwiseinvitation, and wasn't going to make that same
memorable moments that you would like tomistake again, so I asked to take you up on that
share: I had a cat Ziggy when I was in mybike ride, you were so thrilled, you just said:
apartment alone and he hated cats. He was quite"When?"We went out on our first date two days
concerned about how things would work outlater, for the record, it was dinner at The
because I adored my cat. He did not like to hugOffshore, then we took a romantic stroll, hand in
me when I had cat hair on my clothes. When Ihand, and I knew my life had changed (for
moved in the cat stayed in the basement. Then aevermore).After two weeks of dating, I asked
week or so later he fixed the basement withwhen would all the sweetness end, and you said,
toys for the cat. Then a little while later the cat"Never, why does it have to?", We both knew
was allowed in the hallway too and Tommy beganthen, we'd found a lifelong friend.It was obvious to
playing with him every day when he came homeour friends and family too, and I had waited for
from work. Then he was allowed in the wholeyou to say "I love you" for so long, so happily, I
house and sleeping with us. Now, he kisses themoved in just a few months later, and ever
cat more than me and refers to him as "hissince, we've never put one foot wrong.When we
son"!Before our first date he asked one of hisfirst met I found you disliked cats, and now Ziggy
friends if he should hold my hand and his friend"your son" gets more kisses than me, but let me
said no. He did anyway and the day after ourtell you, Wiggy, you're wonderful, and you've
date I told him that I felt really comfortable withmade Wigster's World a great place to be.Wearing
him and that the best part was that he held mytwo crowns can be sometimes tiring, so together,
hand! We still hold hands ALL THE TIME, even inwe play, we laugh, love, walk and pray, hand in
the car!My husband and I are both very analhand, we do everything as a couple, as we did on
people, one reason my mother thought that as IAugust 2nd, our "Beautiful" wedding day.I now
got older and more anal I would have difficultyknow what a husband's love is truly worth, and
being able to live with anyone, but we are anal inwe know that there's no "I" in team, I know you
different things and it works really well.We have atook your time in arriving, but you were worth
lovey-dovey saying we say to each other awaiting for, my dream.Our relationship is the best
couple times a day, i.e. when we leave each otherI've ever had, you truly are my soul-mate and
or hang up the phone. One of us will start with "Ithe love of my life, I just wanted to say, "I'm
love you" the other will say "I love you more" andproud of you", and very proud to be known as
that will go back and forth two or three timesyour wife.Now there's Wiggy, Wigster, Ziggy and
and we do not care who we say it in front of.Pinky, the newest member to the Italiano clan,
Our friends and family always make that "gagPinky, is Daddy's favorite baby girl, but don't
me" motion.Since the beginning of our relationshipworry, you're still my favorite man.And at the risk
we started with a pet name for each other...Myof our friends and family gagging, and this is really
husband is Wiggy and my name is Wigster. Mywhat these words are for Happy First
husband will often say "Who loves their Wiggy" IAnniversary, Tommy, my Wiggy, and you've
will say, "Wigster does", he'll say, "how much", Ialready guessed it, Wigster loves you
will say "More than life itself, each and every daymore.Copyright Allen Jesson :) 2004Debbie kindly
of my life, forever and ever" and he will say "allreplied:"Hi Allen, Wow! what a beautiful job!...You
right then!"...Our friends and family gag over thattruly have a gift!.."and after the package was
one too, and say all this stuff will go away. It'sreceived:"Hi Allen, My anniversary is today and my
been just about three years and our relationship ishusband just opened the poem and absolutely
still the same as the day we met.Our weddingloved it!...Beth did a beautiful job with the
invitations and wedding goblets all had ourpresentation of it as well...my compliments to you
nicknames of Wiggy and Wigster. We walkboth... thanks again for giving me a wonderful
together nightly in the Spring and Summer and"traditional first anniversary gift of paper" for my
Fall...On occasion in the Winter, always hand inhusband,Debbie Italiano"So there you have it. A
hand.At the beginning of our relationship, wefew thoughts and feelings turned into a truly
started to play Scrabble and 500 Rummy...wemeaningful gift of love.Allen Jesson writes for A
played one of the two games almost every nightGift of Love ( a site that specializes in finding
for the first 8 or 9 months and we kept scoreheartfelft gifts of love from around the world.